tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post6701678650625070114..comments2023-10-08T07:04:49.054-07:00Comments on The Writing Life: Forgiveness: Inspiredkariohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10150537989886423212noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-11172816064366012242008-04-15T07:25:00.000-07:002008-04-15T07:25:00.000-07:00I sometimes wonder if I don't forget the injury, d...I sometimes wonder if I don't forget the injury, do I really forgive it - because often I don't forget it. It's oddly clear.. every moment of it. But mostly I do the needed severing because in most cases, I do think the person has tried to hurt me - if it's a severe situation. Anything smaller can be forgiven more readily but it's the ones who hurt me callously, unnecessarily, and intentionally I have the harder time with. When I thought they were friends and they end up doing something awfully cruel I didn't think they were capable of. I think the anger of those things has left, but have I forgotten? No. Do I care anymore is sometimes what I ask myself and that answer is no as well.. so then I wonder if it even matters if I forgave them. Obviously, not the point here. But then, that's my struggle. :) Thanks for shedding a little more light on it sugar. Tho that particular link surprised me..He sort of reminds me of the guy who wrote 'Conversations With God'.. xoMiss Devylishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03712294396381703459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-37216999487013263742008-04-10T07:24:00.000-07:002008-04-10T07:24:00.000-07:00Even when you understand forgiveness as perspectiv...Even when you understand forgiveness as perspective and balance, it's a slippery beast.<BR/><BR/>This is a beautiful post, Kari. Peace to you. Deep, abiding peace.Jerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13063270175679985513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-68494131131289013532008-04-07T13:14:00.000-07:002008-04-07T13:14:00.000-07:00Beautiful breakthrough! You have an awesome trip y...Beautiful breakthrough! You have an awesome trip you (for next post). :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-3728671068368014152008-04-05T00:42:00.000-07:002008-04-05T00:42:00.000-07:00What an excellen post. Wow! I have struggled with...What an excellen post. Wow! I have struggled with forgiveness for a long time. I think I finally figured out, and actually believe, that when I forgive, it has nothing to do with the other person, who hurt me. I am forgiving for myself, to let go of all that hurt and negativity that not forgiving does to me and my emotional well being. I can't control other people or undertand what their motives are, or why they act in a way they do. I can't control why they hurt me, if it is intentional or not. The best I can do is deal with the hurt/pain, and let it go. The only way for me to do that is to forgive. I may not ever have them in my life again, but like I said, forgiving is something I do for me, not them. Having them in my life again, taking that risk, is a whole other process!<BR/>Love you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-47671488927073659502008-04-04T07:00:00.000-07:002008-04-04T07:00:00.000-07:00Well, my dear, dear, friend, you know I've been wo...Well, my dear, dear, friend, you know I've been working on this hot topic myself. I "know" all about forgiveness, but practicing what I know is SO hard. There is a stubborn aspect of myself that still believes I am making the "trespass" OK, if I forgive, even though I don't truly believe this to be so.<BR/><BR/>What has helped me lately is this, "Forgive them, for they know not what they do." When I focus on this I can let go of intention behind the trespass, and concentrate on the fact that we're all a bunch of humans running into each other on the planet, all just doing the best we can with what we know at the time.<BR/><BR/>Cord cutting helps too, at least for me.<BR/><BR/>Love, love and more love.Carrie Wilson Linkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-83096874843403395612008-04-03T19:06:00.000-07:002008-04-03T19:06:00.000-07:00So glad that you're finding this gem for yourself....So glad that you're finding this gem for yourself. A definition of forgiveness that helped me is that you release the other person from responsibility for your feelings and your subsequent choices. The freedom always comes in releasing -whatever it is we hang onto.<BR/><BR/>This is a wonder of insight, especially coming at the time of your life that it does.<BR/><BR/>Love!Deb Shuckahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03439395710731341021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-79302100467751680462008-04-03T10:44:00.000-07:002008-04-03T10:44:00.000-07:00Kario, thanks for the link and great post. I espec...Kario, thanks for the link and great post. <BR/><BR/>I especially like how you zone in on the tendency to suppose that those who harm us do so with that as their intention. Of course, that does happen sometimes - but for the most part, not. And that's helpful to realize. It just helped me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-47081407352159249832008-04-03T10:43:00.000-07:002008-04-03T10:43:00.000-07:00Eloquent post. Especially.."Perhaps the doer was m...Eloquent post. Especially..<BR/><BR/>"Perhaps the doer was making a rash decision, a poor decision, a thoughtless decision. In many cases, there is no argument that they ought not to have done what they did. In all cases, it's not my judgement call to make."<BR/><BR/>You've nailed it for me-"not my judgement call to make."<BR/><BR/>Perfectly said.<BR/><BR/>Love to you.<BR/><BR/>SuzySuzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18323394956423706365noreply@blogger.com