tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post4862895778636457501..comments2023-10-08T07:04:49.054-07:00Comments on The Writing Life: E-G-O spells troublekariohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10150537989886423212noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-86203521726430416852008-09-21T14:51:00.000-07:002008-09-21T14:51:00.000-07:00Your awareness and willingness to know the truth w...Your awareness and willingness to know the truth will get you over this hurdle. You are one of the best parents I know - your girls are amazing. Out of this suffering will come peace for that little eight year old who didn't get what she needed. You are giving that to her now. Much love to you.Deb Shuckahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03439395710731341021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-23235083070811983142008-09-19T16:20:00.000-07:002008-09-19T16:20:00.000-07:00Walked in your shoes last year when my daughter wa...Walked in your shoes last year when my daughter was eight. She's a good dancer and was in a great school...hating it. I was a dancer and wanted her to stick it out. The school was a competition school and she opted not to compete, then felt separated from her peers. When it came time to sign up again, she didn't want to and it took everything in me not to talk her into it. I felt all of those same things you did. She finally said what made sense to me..."I dance because it gives me joy and lets me be free. I don't want to dance to be perfect or to have someone tell me to do it better."<BR/><BR/>That did it for me. No dancing school since.<BR/><BR/>Doing theater now. Sort of a "team" sport without the competition. Maybe that would be worth a try?Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12860253980206937652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-18808874557863459422008-09-14T09:09:00.000-07:002008-09-14T09:09:00.000-07:00I did exactly the same thing to my oldest when he ...I did exactly the same thing to my oldest when he was 4, 5, 6, 7 etc. and then he went through a very traumatic period that shook me awake--and I finally realized the only thing I really wanted was his happiness. As soon as I did that, he found the theatre, and fell in love, all by himself.<BR/><BR/>I still have trouble separating myself from his role and his performance, but it's a little easier now (he's 15). Hang in there...Ask Me Anythinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08259088164899344367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-57782814052705762062008-09-08T20:55:00.000-07:002008-09-08T20:55:00.000-07:00You are such an amazing mom. Your girls are so lu...You are such an amazing mom. Your girls are so lucky because you are able to recognize when this happens and try to do it different. My stuff, the old tapes of growing up, get so emeshed with my girls, that when I catch myself (and I often don't) I too get frustrated with myself. Yet, I think the best thing we can do, is keep trying and learning along the way.<BR/><BR/>This post really hit a nerve with me. So close to my heart and you wrote it perfectly. <BR/><BR/>Love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-64174074440927802902008-09-08T17:11:00.000-07:002008-09-08T17:11:00.000-07:00Owning up is big. When you see your daughter as la...Owning up is big. <BR/><BR/>When you see your daughter as lazy or a quitter it feels so awful because it isn't true, and your inner being knows it. <BR/><BR/>Be gentle with yourself Kari. This is heaps of generational stuff you are healing. Your girls are okay and so are you. <BR/><BR/>Love. <BR/><BR/>http://michelleoneilwrites.blogspot.com/2006/05/one-idiotone-savant.htmlMichelle O'Neilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03221354521123541601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-42780424660179045142008-09-07T14:39:00.000-07:002008-09-07T14:39:00.000-07:00You're breaking the cycle set in motion by your pa...You're breaking the cycle set in motion by your parents, and their parents, and on and on. Good job. Take an A.Carrie Wilson Linkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24806308.post-51704058397591927482008-09-06T12:00:00.000-07:002008-09-06T12:00:00.000-07:00You know I love you. But you have to know that th...You know I love you. But you have to know that the best gift you can give your daughters is the gift of becoming their own person. Only they can live their life and figure out what they want to be. <BR/><BR/>The last time I ever did a team sport was 7th grade volleyball--I have our team pic with both of us in it still! I hated it, and I quit because that stuff is NOT FOR ME. I don't like to be in the spotlight that way. I don't like to compete. I like to shine...but in completely other ways. And that's okay. E will be okay, too. I promise. You know why? Because YOU are a GREAT MOTHER.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com