Monday, December 08, 2014

When That Publication Wasn't What You Thought it Was

I just had to go and check whether my essay had been published yet.
I couldn't email the editor or wait for her to email me. I had to visit the site and see it.

I submitted a piece to an online parenting magazine after multiple rejections from other places at the urging of a Facebook writers group. I didn't know much about the ezine and I did a cursory check of it before submitting to make sure it wasn't populated with articles about the Kardashians and "mom-jeans." I figured since other writers I know from the group had published their work there that it was probably fine, and so I didn't dig too deeply.

Last week when the editor emailed me with a few suggested changes, I was pleased. Her ideas were great and, in one case, she said she thought I should cut something because she thought it was victim-blaming. When I pushed back a little, she explained further and I saw that she was right. After I thanked her for her perspective, she said she was just looking out for me - that their commenters are pretty smart and can be murder on a writer.  I was tremendously grateful.

Today when I went to the site to see whether the piece was up or not, something caught my eye; namely, an essay with the word "Anti-Vaxxers" in the title. My heart sank. I read the article to the end, the bile rising in my throat with every word. As if that weren't enough, I chose to read the comments. I'm not sure what I was hoping for - perhaps one or two voices that took the author to task for being nasty, for reducing the issue to black-and-white, some sort of intelligent conversation? I wanted to see that this was a community of parents who were thoughtful and compassionate, educated and nonjudgmental. Unfortunately, that isn't what I saw. I saw eighty-plus comments from women cheering each other on for their choice to vaccinate their children for everything under the sun, egging each other on as they characterized anyone who wouldn't do the same as "stupid" or "pro-death." I saw not one comment defending a decision not to vaccinate (even against the flu). I saw not one compassionate response that called for an understanding of the difficulty of the issue.  In fact, at one point, the comment thread devolved into vilifying families for choosing organic food or avoiding GMOs.

Sigh.

One woman commented multiple times and seemed particularly gleeful when she was hating on "those people." She wrote that she loved this particular site because "this place is so pro-vaccine/pro-common sense/pro-community...[it is] my vaccine safe space." Oh. Well, then.

The last thing I want is to be part of a community that is one-sided. I don't want to write for a group of readers who are so convinced that they already know everything there is to know about Subject X that they refuse to think about grey areas or nuances or what someone else's life might be like. And so now that my essay hasn't yet shown up, I have the dilemma of whether or not to ask them to pull it. It isn't a subject that's terribly controversial for this particular ezine and I'm not worried that I'll get trashed in the comments (in fact, I may not even read them, after this), but I hate the idea that this particular site is known for polarization or nastiness. I don't want my writing associated with that, especially if I'm being paid for it.

When I looked at previous articles by the author of this one, I was surprised at what I found. Honestly, many of her posts were funny and/or interesting. One or two were even helpful. I guess I was struck by the passion that this particular issue can incite in what I would consider to be an otherwise reasonable person. But if there is something that I can't stand, it's reducing a complicated issue to black-and-white and then using that as an excuse to call names and make fun of other people who disagree.  And so, here I find myself, in the crux of a dilemma. I think I'll go sleep on it.

4 comments:

fullsoulahead.com said...

Thank you for being a thoughtful person, about vaccines and everything else.



Elizabeth said...

I'll ditto what fullsoulahead says. Your comments are among the most thoughtful that I ever receive on my blog, and each of your posts is a work of art and when relevant, journalistic expertise. You know how I feel about making the vaccination thing black and white. Ugh. Frankly, I'd run the other way. Or maybe you could use your tentative platform (AFTER you've published there) to write your own comment on the site. And if you're so inclined, I'd love to know where, and I'll add my usual tart words.

Carrie Link said...

Ditto Effie and Elizabeth.

Deb Shucka said...

This is an interesting dilemma, but one I'm confident you'll find a perfect solution for. I hope you'll write and tell us how you decide to resolve this conflict, mostly because I love reading your process and learning from your amazingly insightful writing.

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